Good reasons for waiting until marriage
You like everything about him. Your heart beats faster when he holds your hand. You love the way he smells and and look forward to being around him. He’s kind and gentle and says all the right things.
This. Is. It.
He’s. The. One.
Why should you wait? It’s your body and your decision and this just feels so right.
So, why should you wait?
Here are a few reasons:
- Waiting until marriage to have sex is the only 100% guarantee that you won’t become a mommy or a daddy until you’re ready. (No stretch marks, no crying babies, no poopy diapers – until you’re ready!)
- Only sexual abstinence from all forms of sex can protect you from STDs 100% of the time. According to the CDC (Center for Disease Control), “The most reliable way to avoid infection is to not have sex (i.e., anal, vaginal or oral).” (While latex condoms can help prevent some STDs, they are NOT 100% effective. Some STIs won’t be prevented by condoms because they can be spread through skin-to-skin contact and may be transmitted through touching (HPV, genital herpes and syphilis are a few).
- Having sex with someone has psychological repercussions. If there is a breakup, there is increased chance of depression and other mental health issues.
- Practicing sexual abstinence is a great way to get to know your boundaries and develop a stronger relationship emotionally and spiritually with the person you are dating without bringing in the physical aspect.
- You won’t need to hide anything from your parents or your friends, which takes a lot of pressure off your back and helps strengthen your relationship with them.
- You will know that the person you are with, is with you for YOU. Your personality, your interests, and all of the great things about you besides sexuality.
Even if you’ve had sex before you can still choose to wait until marriage from this point forward. Choosing to delay sexual activity may make sense for both your emotional and physical health. Don’t let anyone pressure you into sex. It is your decision alone to give up your virginity or participate in sexual activity.
Shelby Whitlock is Care Net SoMD’s Outreach and Education Director. She has developed the REEF (Relationship Essentials that Equip Families) program and is passionate about educating people about healthy relationships. Shelby is a certified Sexual Risk Avoidance Specialist.